Thursday, June 25, 2009
Deep thoughts continued:
I thought it was good enough to continue yesterdays topic.
Dàchéng, Yes I have friends. Though not a lot anymore. In the week, we don't have much time/energy to go out and see each other, but they also play WoW so we put up Vent, and talk while we play. In the weekend, we mostly hangout at my home or at a bar playing some biljarts.
Yet I must say when i was younger, i had a lot more friends, as time passed by though you naturally lose sight of each other. (diffrent home, school, work etc)
The first year i started to work full-time, AND did univeristy I didn't had a lot of time to spend with them, and i lost about half of my mates, later when I met my wife, that little time I had got split in 2. Most of my friends said then and there and litterly: it's uss or her. (Do mind that this was not the first time) I chose her.
My cell has about 348 numbers in it, of which 24 familymembers and 10 worknrs. (i got an extra cell for work so only emergency nrs) The rest were mates. Now i call 3 nrs...
I realised that "Friends" are people who call you when THEY need something. And when you need something, they all dissapear. So I'm left with my "family", my brow's, my Dearest Friends.
You should do good to listen to this piece of advice:
For every 50 friends you got, there will be 1 that's a true friend, one that isnt a M&S to put it in goblin words, only 1 that you will see between being a young-adult and adulthood.
Everyone else, will leave, forget you,find other friends...
there's a line from a song that goes: "Friends are enemies with secret identities, who come around and stab you in the back when you ain't looking"
Now that's exagereted by far. But do think about this: how many friends of yours would dump you for 1 million dollars? how many would you dump? There's probably only one or two that you won't let go.
I'm not saying this out of bitterness, I'm saying this out of wisdom. You (my readers who are saying no) are probably below <24 years old, and think that those friends you have will stay with you all your life. Go to your family and ask how many childhood friends they still see? my mom and dad don't see any, my aunt doesnt see any, my grand-ma doesn't see any, etc etc.
Don't think that having fewer or no friends is a result of addiction. I chose to have less friends, and there wasn't one day I was depressed about it. I make one phonecall and i know that my mate will be running to me. For me that's better then having to call 348 nrs and hoping that half of them show up.
I chose to let the relationship wither, not for the game, not for time but for me. I am happier now.
So right now i have: aquintaces (? spelling) and "family" (my dearest friends)
the first group, I see at work, at my favorite bar, at wow.... And they are fun to be with but thats it.
The second group, is the one I rely on, and those that can rely on me. And I take pride in it, that that group is small.
For the ones Thinking I must be 44 years old and a loner to write like this:
My real name is Dave V.D. I live in Belgium and was born at 18th of august 1988.
So I'm 20y old,
My favorite hobbies: biljarts, spending time with my wife, reading, programming, hanging out with my brotha from anotha motha, and anything that can test my brain/body to its fullest.
(except contact sports: cant do those anymore - accident) and gaming (including WoW)
Work: I work as an ITer at N-allo and a programmer-analyst in my spare time.
Studies: Management, Acountancy and IT + IT-degree + degree to start my own company.
My IQ: 126-139 (from the tests i took these are my lowest and highest scores)
Favorite colour: Black and red (and green)
Music: HipHop, old rock and hard rock/metal
Movies: action, thriller, comedy.
Food: steak and fries
Anything else just ask.
How can I have wisdom then? Well, let's just say I crawled out of the snake pit and have seen a lot.